What I have learned these past 13 years is marriage is a choice. Not just on your wedding day, but every moment thereafter.
There are days when the yes comes easy and effortless.There are days when the yes is on auto-pilot, because life keeps going and who has the time to even think?
There are days, however, and sometimes more often than you wish, that it's so difficult, you want to say no. But you choose to say yes even with the doubt, because maybe tomorrow it's going to be different. Yet, you wake up the day after, and you still want to say no. So you convince yourself to say yes because this is what you signed up for. You knew in theory that marriage is not a bed of roses, except you did not realize there will be days when it can be so exhausting. You did not realize there will be days you look in the mirror and you don't seem to know the person looking back at you. There are days that you think being on your own would be easier, but then you remember nights when you were single that you thought the grass is greener on the other side and wished to cross that fence. So you say yes. Sometimes grudgingly, sometime apathetically. But you choose the yes. You choose it day in, day out.
There are days, however, and sometimes more often than you wish, that it's so difficult, you want to say no. But you choose to say yes even with the doubt, because maybe tomorrow it's going to be different. Yet, you wake up the day after, and you still want to say no. So you convince yourself to say yes because this is what you signed up for. You knew in theory that marriage is not a bed of roses, except you did not realize there will be days when it can be so exhausting. You did not realize there will be days you look in the mirror and you don't seem to know the person looking back at you. There are days that you think being on your own would be easier, but then you remember nights when you were single that you thought the grass is greener on the other side and wished to cross that fence. So you say yes. Sometimes grudgingly, sometime apathetically. But you choose the yes. You choose it day in, day out.
And then there is that day when saying yes turns out to be effortless and easy again. And the next day, and the next day, and the next day. Next thing we know it, we're one day closer and closer to our promised forever.
My dearest Labs... cheers to the 13 years of yeses we've made and cheers to the coming years we make our daily choice of each other.
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